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Negative Thinking is Addictive

We have started the weekly teleseminars: ‘It’s all about Me,’ and I loving the learning. Having others to answer to has been amazing and rewriting goals and setting new benchmarks has been great.

The biggest learning has been: What I think about most of the time. I thought my big worry was our business, and part of the program is to identify our biggest worry and when it pops into our head, replace that thought with another thought. What I have discovered by monitoring my thoughts is that my biggest downer is something totally different. I have also come to realize on a different level, is that negative thoughts are addictive. Thinking negatively is an addictive behaviour, so as I change my thoughts, I am changing a chemical reaction in my body; therefore, experiencing withdrawal, just like any other addiction.

I happen to know a thing or two about addiction, and the key to stopping my addiction in the past was to be really clear on what it is I was stopping it for. I really, really wanted to be a better parent and having my head stuck down a toilet every morning while my child was watching TV was not the life I had imagined for us. So, as the desire to be a good Mum grew, my need to be loaded all the time shrank, until I finally sought out the help I needed to change.

I knew for a long time that I was an alcoholic and didn’t want to look at it. When I couldn’t lie to myself anymore, and I knew that I wouldn’t achieve what I wanted without help, I knew I had to change. I started by going to treatment and then coming out of there with those three lines on a single piece of paper:

Wherever you go, there you are.

If nothing changes, nothing changes and

Who’s driving your bus?

I also learnt about affirmations and started daily telling myself that I liked me. I didn’t believe it, but started. It was the beginning of a journey of self-awareness that has brought me a long way. And when I think about where I came from, and where I am today, I can hardly believe it.

So how come it has taken me all these years to really realize how addictive negative thinking really is. I have been practicing meditation of late and have changed it up a bit, and have been sharing with the people on the current teleseminar series and WOW… what a difference ten minutes makes when I really add the feelings. The synchronicities in our lives have been amazing (just ask Shawn about his meeting with Jim Pattison and email from Glen Clark) and life is so very, very good.

Knowing what I want and where I am going has been the biggest gift I have in my life. It supports me to stay out of the way of the negative thoughts and behaviours and pushes or pulls me into the dreams that I want for myself.

The pain pushes us until the vision pulls us…. Are you hurting to a place that you’ve had enough yet? When is enough, enough? Only you can decide. Maybe you aren’t clear enough about what it is you say you want. I challenge you to be more conscious of your thoughts this month, and we would love it if you chose to join us on our free intro teleseminar on Monday, March 26th at 8:00pm PT.