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Date Ideas
Women enjoy sexual relations the most when their emotional needs are met, while men are much more open to the emotional side when their physical needs are met.
Remember when you and your partner first started dating and how you would go the end of the earth for them? You would do anything for your new love. It was fun and exciting, and the anticipation of that new love was overwhelming at times. Who doesn't love that feeling?
Lorraine and I believe that we all do, and keeping your love alive requires trust, faith and some spontaneity.
What about spontaneity? Do you think spontaneity happens as if by magic? Spontaneity requires commitment, preparation, flexibility, creativity and time. If it's important to you to experience fun, excitement and the happiness that spontaneity can bring into your relationship, you have to work at it. It's not hard work, but it does require some effort.
An old friend once said "if only you could bottle new love."
Well, we believe you can. In long term relationships it can be a challenge to keep the romance alive — unless both partners are committed to making the effort to re-ignite with each other. We find as time goes on, romance seems to slide down the priority list as careers, kids and even complacency start to invade what precious time we have for each other, and the romance suffers.
The purpose of these dates is to honour the commitment we have to our relationship in a fun, exciting and safe environment. Not every date focuses on sex. We have created some fun dates that don't include sex at all, and we have created some that are purely sexual fantasies.
We will be introducing one new date per month, the date that either one of us has engineered for that month. When we started doing this, we set some rules which we share with you here. Please use these rules as guidelines and add any others that may be important to you. Just remember that this is what we do, so feel free to make changes to suit your own level of comfort. Or choose to stretch your comfort zones, it's up to you!
We advise that you talk about your desires and fantasies, so that your partner has an idea of some of the experiences that you would like to have.
Date Rules:
- Every month one of us takes a turn creating a date for the other. If January is my month, then February is her turn.
- Try to keep your date a surprise if you can, but if you need to tell your partner: today is the day, or have a shower and get dressed up, or be ready to be picked up at this time, or whatever, that's okay, too.
- Have access to your partner's daytimer or have a shared calendar, so you don't double-book and mess up the plans.
- You take care of all the details. If the kids need daycare for the evening or you need someone to let the dog out, it's all up to you.
- No means no. If at anytime during the date your partner is uncomfortable, you must respect that. Once again, these dates are for building your relationship on a foundation of faith and trust.
So we invite you to join us as we dabble with our recipe for "Bottled Love." We urge you to honour, trust and amaze each other. And may all your fantasies come true.
