“I didn't marry you because you were perfect. I didn't even marry you because I loved you. I married you because you gave me a promise. That promise made up for your faults. And the promise I gave you made up for mine. Two imperfect people got married and it was the promise that made the marriage. And when our children were growing up, it wasn't a house that protected them; and it wasn't our love that protected them - it was that promise.”

Why, oh why, oh why do we women fall in love with a man, ‘just the way he is,’ then spend the rest of our time trying to change him?

Is it because they change, and we want all the love and romance back that we had in the beginning?

They romance us, tell us they love us, buy us shiny objects, capture our hearts, and boom: back to work they go. They have fought and conquered, and now the challenge is over, and they move on to the next pursuit. They love us, want nothing more than to make us happy and have ABSOLUTELY NO IDEA how.

I watch women finish their husbands’ sentences, tell them what to wear, when to do it, and try and turn them into women. You may be asking, “Why do men comply?”

So why are so many women so unhappy with their men? Men become wimps, they don’t stand up to us, they don’t listen when we are pouring our hearts out, and they walk away from us when we are upset and emotional.

Of course they walk away; they don’t know what to do. Our men just want to make us happy and don’t want to see any evidence of the contrary. For many of us, we have never been taught how to be in a relationship and yet, love is the greatest and hardest thing to learn.

Research has proven that, contrary to popular belief, a successful relationship is not a matter of luck but rather the result of learnable skills.

One of the tools you will receive as a result of attending, ‘How’s Your Love Life?’ is learning about the are six human needs that, once understood, and practiced will change your lives.

Our workshop is currently available on Vancouver Island, and if we are too far away for you, check out www.smartmarriages.com and search the directory for relationship workshops in your area.

Pick up a book or two. There are many out there that will support and guide you and remind you that you are not alone in what you are currently going through.

You can purchase our book, “Olive Juice Forever: Confessions of a Love Junkie”, at our website at www.OliveJuiceForever.com, or go to your local bookstore and see what you can find. Gay and Katie Hendricks are our favourite love guiding couple. What a great Valentine’s gift for yourself and your partner.